Episode 3: Why Moms Are So Tired All the Time—The Real Reason & How to Reclaim Your Energy, Part 1

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Are you constantly Googling, “Why am I so tired all the time?”—only to get answers that don’t actually help? You’re not alone, mama. The truth is, your exhaustion isn’t just about sleep deprivation or caffeine deficiency. There’s a deeper reason behind why you feel so depleted—and it goes beyond what Google can tell you.

In this episode, we’re uncovering the true origins of your fatigue and why God’s design for your health and energy in motherhood looks radically different from what the world teaches. You were never meant to run on empty, and exhaustion is not your destiny.

Join me as we break free from the burnout cycle and step into the abundant life God created for you—body, soul, and spirit.

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Why Am I So Tired All the Time?

Feeling exhausted all the time? You’re not alone, mama. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “Why am I so tired?”—there’s a real reason behind it. The struggle of motherhood is so real, and I want to validate that today. But here’s the good news: the answer is often simpler than we think.

God designed your body to thrive, not just survive. When we align with His design, we step into greater energy, strength, and wellness—not just for ourselves, but for the families we love. So today, let’s dive into what’s really draining your energy and how you can reclaim vibrant health. Because you were made for more—and feeling good in your body is part of that. Let’s step into hope and healing together!

Your Body, Soul, and Spirit Are Connected

To really understand the depth of our fatigue we first have to understand the design in which God created us. We are made in body, soul, and spirit, and these three parts of us come together and integrately woven and connected with one another. This is a part of how holistic wellness operates. We don’t just see the body as a standalone operating part, but we see it connected to who we are as a whole. When we look at the wholeness of how God created us, there are these three parts that effect our wellness in every area.

The Spiritual Exhaustion of Motherhood

In our spirit, we have a deep need for connection with God. And as moms, that need feels even greater. So often, when I talk with a friend who’s struggling with fatigue and exhaustion, she’ll say something like, “If I could just get up and read my Bible before the kids wake up, I’m sure I would feel better.” We know on a deep level that connecting with God strengthens and energizes us. And yet, we often struggle to find the motivation—or even the energy—to wake up in the first place.

So we continue in this place of knowing that we are spiritually exhausted. We know we need God’s grace, and perhaps we even pray for it often, but we feel stuck—stuck in this place where we know we need more spiritually.

We make it to church on Sundays, and we’re just glad we got there on time. And if we actually catch the entire worship service? That feels like a miracle from heaven. It fills us. We love being in that space. But we also know that motherhood demands so much from us, and we need even more spiritually to sustain us.

Yet, we often lose hope that we’ll actually receive it in this season of motherhood. And when we step back, it’s easy to see why we’re depleted.

The Struggle for Connection in Motherhood

In our soul, we crave connection. We were created for intimacy, closeness, openness, and vulnerability with others. We were made to be comforted by people who see us, who understand us. You know that feeling when you sit down with a friend, share your struggles, and she gets you? That deep sense of relief and comfort? That’s because we were designed for connection.

But in motherhood, that connection can feel so hard to find.

We start off in the newborn stage, caught in an endless cycle of nursing, rocking, and sleeping in short bursts. Then we move into toddlerhood, where even though nap times fade and outings become a little easier, life somehow gets busier. As our kids grow, our schedules fill up—activities, appointments, school drop-offs, and errands. Motherhood demands so much from us that slowing down to build friendships feels nearly impossible.

And even if we do find those friendships, maintaining them can be just as hard. When your kids are little, it feels like there’s always something—sickness, tantrums, missed naps—that keeps you from showing up like you planned. Trying to nurture friendships can feel like trudging through mud.

And so we miss it. We miss the connection we were made for.

When Motherhood Feels Like Groundhog Day

Even when we’re surrounded by our precious little ones, the weight of the mundane can feel overwhelming. It’s like we’re living in Groundhog Day—that old movie where the main character wakes up to the same day on repeat. Motherhood can feel just like that.

Day in and day out, it’s the same routine: laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, vacuuming, wiping sticky hands, dealing with meltdowns, attempting to keep the floors clean (even though they never stay that way). It can start to feel like our entire identity is wrapped up in what we do rather than who we are.

We become the cook, the maid, the chauffeur, the problem-solver for everyone’s needs. And in the process, we start to lose something—our creativity, our sense of self. We get stuck in the mundane, and our soul feels drained.

Right now, we’re simply taking a moment to recognize it—to understand what’s really going on.

Exhaustion Runs Deeper Than Just Physical Fatigue

On a physical level, we know we’re not getting enough sleep. We know we could be eating better. We know we should probably be exercising. But it’s that constant refrain—“I should… I should… I should.”

The problem is, when we’re lacking comfort in our soul and spiritual motivation in our lives, our bodies suffer too. Instead of waking up early to move our bodies, we just want to sleep. Instead of making that nourishing meal we know would fuel us, we reach for what’s easy—snacking on mac and cheese and chicken nuggets from our kids’ plates because we just don’t have the energy to care.

And deep down, we know we’re exhausted. But when we Google, “Why am I so tired all the time?”, we don’t get the real answer. Google tells us we need more vitamins, more exercise, more sleep. And while those things may help, they don’t touch the deeper exhaustion we’re feeling.

Because our tiredness isn’t just physical. It’s the result of depletion in all three parts of how God created us—spirit, soul, and body. And until we recognize this, we’ll keep searching for quick fixes that never truly restore us.

The first step? Acknowledging that this exhaustion runs deeper—and that healing starts with understanding why we feel this way in the first place.

Your Needs Didn’t Disappear When You Became a Mom

God created your body—just as He created your soul and spirit—with real needs. And those needs didn’t vanish the moment you became a mom.

Yet, so many of us fall into the trap of believing that once we step into motherhood, our needs no longer matter. We put them on the back burner, convincing ourselves, “It’s fine. I can keep pushing through. This is just what’s required of me. And besides, what I’m doing is holy work.” And while that is true, those needs don’t go away just because we ignore them.

The longer we dismiss them, the more they demand our attention—until one day, we hit a wall of exhaustion we can’t push past anymore.

We often hear about the importance of spiritual health—how we need to get in the Word, cultivate holy habits, and create space to grow in our faith. That message is loud and clear in Christian circles.

We also hear about caring for our soul—how to manage stress, protect our mental health, and cultivate emotional well-being. There’s no shortage of resources in that area either.

But what’s not talked about nearly enough in the Christian space? The health of our body. Because, somewhere along the way, the body was made secular.

Reclaiming the Sacred: Your Body Was Never Meant to Be Secular

In biblical times, there was no divide between secular and sacred. Hebrew culture didn’t separate life into “spiritual” and “unspiritual.” Everything—everything—was spiritual.

From the moment they woke up to the time they went to sleep, every task was done unto the Lord. Whether making bread, working in the fields, or—like Paul—making tents, it was all holy work. Paul didn’t say, “Preaching is sacred, but making tents is secular.” He understood that all of life belonged to God.

But today, that mindset has shifted. Instead of seeing all things as sacred, we live in a world where nearly everything feels secular. It’s become our job to carve out moments of holiness in a culture that constantly pulls us away from it.

And nowhere is this divide more obvious than in how we view the body.

The world glorifies the body—but for the wrong reasons. The health industry tells us to eat right and work out right so we can look right. Our culture places ultimate value on physical beauty and sexual appeal.

As Christians, we’ve rejected that mindset—but often by swinging to the opposite extreme. Instead of recognizing the God-given importance of our bodies, we dismiss them entirely, believing “This body doesn’t even matter because we’ll leave it behind one day.”

You Were Created for More—Even in Motherhood

The fullness of how we’re created relies on us operating in God’s design. To restore our health—body, soul, and spirit—we have to leave behind the world’s ways and lean into God’s original plan for us. That’s the only way we’ll recover the energy and vitality we were created to experience.

You were made for more.

It is not God’s design for you to live defeated and depleted. And I know that’s true because of John 10:10 (TPT):

“But I have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect—life in its fullness until you overflow.”

I believe that. If it’s in the Bible, it’s truth.

And this promise doesn’t come with exceptions—
God doesn’t say:
“I created you for fullness… unless you’re a mom.”
“I called you to abundant life… unless you have three toddlers.”
“I meant overflow… unless you’re not getting enough sleep.”

No. He says, I have come to give you everything in abundance.

That means even in motherhood, you were created for more.

You may not expect much right now. You may not expect to wake up feeling rested or energized. But God says to start expecting more.

Because He came to give you life in its fullness—until you overflow.

And let’s be honest—some days, motherhood doesn’t feel like overflow.

Motherhood can feel like anything but overflow. Some days, it feels like a dry and weary desert—like you’re pouring out everything you have with nothing left to give.

But here’s something powerful: The root word of abundant actually means fountain.

Jesus didn’t come just to give you a little more energy to scrape by. He came to unlock the fountain of your potential—a constant, renewing source of life within you.

And I believe that’s true for your spirit, but it’s also true for your body and soul.

Because God designed you as a whole being—body, soul, and spirit—completely interconnected. That means when we steward our physical health, it strengthens our emotional and spiritual well-being, too.

And that’s what we’re going to dive into.

But for now, let’s keep going.

The Shift We’re Meant to Make

Motherhood begins with a journey of sacrifice—and we embrace it with open hearts. In those early days, we willingly give our sleep, our energy, and even our own bodies to care for this tiny, precious life. And we do it joyfully, because we love our child more than words can express.

This is God’s design. He created sacrificial love. He knew motherhood would ask much of us—just as marriage does—and yet He called it good. We see this in Jesus, too. God sent His Son to give everything for us, because sacrificial love was His idea from the very beginning.

But here’s where we often go wrong.

We start off motherhood in a season that requires complete sacrifice. But when the season shifts, we don’t shift with it. Instead, we keep walking the same path of give, give, give, believing that if we ever pull back, even just a little, we’re being selfish.

And this is where the enemy creeps in.

He twists the beauty of sacrificial love into something it was never meant to be—an endless pouring out with no refilling. But that was never God’s design.

There comes a point when it’s time to pour back into yourself again, to renew the rhythms that sustain you as a woman and mother. And yet, so many of us resist this shift, believing that making space for our own well-being means we are taking something away from our families.

But what if the opposite is true?

What if caring for yourself is not pulling back, but positioning you to pour out even more?

Sacrificial love is holy, but so is stepping into the fullness of life God created you for.

The Enemy’s Distortion of Sacrificial Love

This is the enemy’s lie—to distort our view of sacrificial love and convince us that taking care of ourselves is wrong.

We start to believe that if we make time for our own health and well-being, we’re bad moms. That we’re no longer worthy of being cared for. That we’re not worth the effort, time, or investment it takes to pour into ourselves.

Somewhere along the way, we accept the false idea that our needs no longer exist because we’re mothers.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

If we weren’t meant to have needs anymore, God would have taken them away. He created balance in all of nature—everything functions exactly as it was designed. If our needs as body, soul, and spirit were supposed to disappear in motherhood, they would have.

But they haven’t.

Even when we try to bury them, they’re still there. And our good Father sees them.

God is looking at you—His daughter—and saying:

“I see you. I see you being an excellent mom. I see you reaching the fullness of your calling in motherhood. I see the way you love your children so beautifully. But I did not create you to live defeated and depleted. In fact, I have more for you.”

The enemy takes what is sacred and makes it secular.

Losing weight becomes about vanity instead of health.
Eating well becomes about fitting into jeans instead of stewarding the body God gave you.
Exercising becomes about attractiveness instead of mental clarity and strength.
Fasting or cutting back on indulgence becomes about perfection instead of discipline and alignment with God’s design.

But what if we took back what the enemy has twisted? What if we reclaimed what God intended for our health—body, soul, and spirit? What if we saw caring for our bodies as an act of worship rather than an obsession or an afterthought?

Reclaiming Health as Holy

If we are going to operate in the fullness we were created for, we must see health as holy, just as God designed it to be.

Too often, we carry unspoken guilt—the belief that caring for ourselves makes us a bad mom. That spending money on a supplement, making a nourishing meal for ourselves, or choosing a workout over another moment with our child is somehow wrong.

But we must release that guilt.

Because honoring the needs God gave us doesn’t take away from our motherhood—it strengthens it. It allows us to show up as the women, mothers, and daughters of God we were truly created to be.

Join Me for Part Two!

This conversation was so powerful that I decided to break it into two parts. Today, we talked about the importance of recognizing how God created us—body, soul, and spirit—to thrive.

Next time, we’re diving even deeper. We’ll be talking about the barriers that keep us stuck—the internal and external struggles that leave us feeling exhausted and unable to step into real change. So many moms find themselves silently suffering, unsure of how to break free. But we’re not staying there. We’re going to redeem those struggles and find a healthy, sustainable way forward—together.

So make sure you come back for part two because it’s going to be so good!

In the meantime, if you’re ready for some practical, tangible steps you can start right now, head down to the show notes and grab my freebie: Five Simple Steps to Get Your Energy Back.

This guide will give you simple but powerful strategies to start shifting your energy today. Just pick one thing, implement it consistently, and watch how even small changes can build momentum toward better health, better energy, and greater strength.

You were made for more, mama—and I’m here to help you step into it!

Until next time, remember—you are beautifully designed by God to live with energy, clarity, and joy. You’re not just surviving, Mama—you’re stepping into the vibrant life you were created for. I’m cheering you on!

Blessings & Wellness,

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