Episode 4: Why Moms Are So Tired All the Time — Part 2

Breaking Free from the Blocks that Keep Us Exhausted

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Welcome back! Today, we’re diving into part two of Why You’re So Tired All the Time. If you missed the first part of this conversation you can find Part 1 here. I encourage you to go back and read it—it’s foundational to understanding how God designed us—body, soul, and spirit—and the root causes of our fatigue as tired mamas.

In Part 2, we’ll explore the key blocks that keep us from true change. These barriers can hold us back, but we’re going to identify, remove, and redeem them so you can move forward with confidence and strength.

Ready to break free from exhaustion and step into renewed energy? Let’s dive into day two!

Redeeming the Conversation & Finding Real Answers

If we’re going to step into the fullness we were created for, we have to embrace health as holy—just as God designed it. But sometimes, we carry these hidden mindsets that whisper, If I take care of myself, I’m a bad mom. Maybe you’ve felt guilty for spending money on a supplement, making a meal just for yourself, or choosing a workout over extra time with your child. But here’s the truth: when we care for the needs God gave us, we become more of who He created us to be.

Still, there are real blocks that get in the way—some come from within, and some from the world around us. One big one? The responses we hear when we ask for help. You know the ones—those fluffy Christian answers that sound nice but don’t actually help. I believe people mean well when they say them, but they often leave us stuck, without real solutions.

So today, we’re going to talk about them. Not to criticize, but to redeem them—because you deserve more than clichés. You need deeper, more practical, and truly helpful answers that align with God’s heart for you. Let’s dive in!

Fluffy Answers Won’t Fix It

The first block? Asking for help and getting a fluffy answer in return. You’ve probably heard them—those well-meaning but dismissive phrases meant to offer encouragement. But instead of helping, they gloss over the real struggle and leave you feeling unheard.

These quick-fix responses might be said with good intentions, but they don’t offer real hope or practical solutions. That’s why we need to call them out—not to criticize, but to redeem them. When we see them for what they are, we can move past the surface and into the deeper, more meaningful work of true healing and change. Let’s break this down together!

When Truth Isn’t Enough: Validating the Struggle

One of the first responses you might hear when you’re struggling is, “Children are a blessing from the Lord.” And yes—this is absolutely true. A thousand percent. But for a mom who is overwhelmed, exhausted, or barely holding it together, this response doesn’t actually help. It doesn’t validate the struggle or provide the support she’s asking for.

Because deep down, you already know your children are a blessing. What you’re really asking is, How do I experience that blessing when I feel so drained? How do I find joy in the middle of the exhaustion?

Have you ever had a moment where you look around at your life—the kids you prayed for, the home you prayed for, the husband you prayed for—and think, I should feel joyful… but I don’t. Instead, you feel empty, overwhelmed, maybe even anxious or depressed. You know you’re blessed, but you’re struggling to feel the joy of it.

That’s the real heart of the question when a mom reaches out for help. And while saying “children are a blessing” is true, it isn’t an answer. It doesn’t show her how to move from exhaustion to joy.

Your struggle is real, and it’s worth validating. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and you deserve more than a dismissive phrase—you deserve real help, real solutions, and real hope. And that’s exactly what we’re going to get into.

Now, let’s move on to block number two.

If Motherhood Is More Than a Season, How Do We Make It Sustainable?

Another common response when a mom is struggling is, “Enjoy this time, mama. It will soon pass.” And sure, this is easy for someone to say once they’re out of the trenches. Looking back, they see how precious that time was. But for the mom who is in it—waking up exhausted, facing the same mundane tasks day after day—it doesn’t feel like it’s going by quickly.

Instead, it feels slow. And hearing this phrase can feel dismissive—like you shouldn’t be exhausted, you shouldn’t be frustrated, you should just be enjoying motherhood. But “should” doesn’t help. It doesn’t move us into anything productive or meaningful.

And let’s talk about this idea of motherhood being just a season. Honestly? That’s unfair. Motherhood isn’t a short-lived phase. It’s not a few months or even a handful of years. Most moms will spend 20 to 30 years—sometimes more, depending on how far apart their kids are—with young children in their home. That’s at least a fourth of your life. Maybe a third. Maybe more.

That’s a massive part of our existence, and it deserves better answers. It deserves real help—practical, tangible solutions that allow us to not just look back and wish we had enjoyed it, but to actually enjoy it now.

Because just saying, “Enjoy it, it goes by fast” doesn’t change the reality that some days, it doesn’t feel fast. Some days, it’s hard. And when you’re stuck in survival mode, you don’t need a reminder to enjoy it—you need someone to show you how.

If John 10:10 is true—that Jesus came so we could have life to the full—then how do we get out of just surviving and actually step into thriving?

The Truth About Motherhood: It Doesn’t Just “Get Easier”

All right, let’s talk about the third phrase we often hear: “Don’t worry, it gets easier.” This is something moms hear a lot, especially when they have toddlers. And while it’s usually said with good intentions, the truth is—it’s just not that simple.

I know this often comes from someone who has already made it through the little years. Maybe their kids are older, or maybe they’ve even left the house. But I have to wonder—do they really remember how hard it was? Because motherhood doesn’t just get easier. The demands change, but they don’t go away.

When your kids are little, the weight of motherhood is mostly physical. You’re always moving—rocking, feeding, chasing, carrying. And while there are emotional challenges, most of them can be soothed with a nap, a snack, or a cuddle.

But as your children grow, so do their needs. The physical exhaustion may ease, but a new kind of weight settles in—the emotional, spiritual, and mental demands of guiding a growing child. You’re no longer just reminding them to say “please” and “thank you.” Now, you’re helping them navigate friendships, identity, and faith. You’re answering their deep questions about God, the world, and their purpose in it.

So telling a struggling mom, “Don’t worry, it gets easier,” isn’t just unhelpful—it can feel dismissive. Because when you’re in the thick of it, overwhelmed and exhausted, you don’t need someone to promise that one day it will be better. You need to know how to make it through today.

Motherhood will always have challenges, but the real question is: How do we meet those demands with grace? How do we walk through this calling with energy, wisdom, and hope—without constantly feeling like we’re running on empty?

That’s what we’re here to figure out together. Because you don’t just need vague reassurances—you deserve real, tangible help for this journey.

Moving Beyond Fluffy Encouragement: Stepping Into More in Motherhood

If you’ve ever heard—or even said—phrases like “Just hold on, mama, it’ll be okay” or “It gets easier”, know this: there’s no shame in that. These words often come from a well-meaning place, from moms who barely made it through themselves and don’t quite know what else to say.

And yes, there’s some truth in those words. Sometimes, we do just hold on, one day at a time. But I believe God has so much more for you than just surviving motherhood.

In John 10:10, Jesus tells us that He came to give us life—full life, abundant and overflowing. But if we want to step into that fullness, we can’t keep holding onto vague, surface-level encouragement. We need something deeper. We need real, tangible help to walk in the strength, energy, and joy that God has designed for us.

Motherhood is hard, and it’s okay to acknowledge that. But it’s also okay to believe that you don’t have to stay in a place of exhaustion and overwhelm. God designed your body, mind, and spirit to thrive, and there are practical ways to lean into that design.

So let’s rise above the struggle together.

The first roadblock we tackled? Turning to others for help and only receiving nice-sounding words that don’t actually provide hope.

But the second roadblock is just as real—you’re too exhausted to even build the motivation to move toward something better.

So what do we do when we lack motivation and energy? Let’s dive into that next.

The Overlooked Key to Spiritual and Emotional Strength

When we feel overwhelmed, our first instinct is often to focus on our spiritual and emotional needs: “Help me wake up early to read my Bible.” “Help me manage my anxiety.” “Help me find more peace in my day.” And while those things are undeniably important, there’s something that often gets left out of the conversation—something that can actually help you achieve all of those things.

Your physical health.

I don’t hear this talked about enough in Christian spaces, but the way you care for your body directly impacts your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. I know this firsthand.

After losing our little girl halfway through pregnancy, I hit my lowest point—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I felt depleted in every way. Eventually, I decided to focus on my physical health, starting with nutrition and exercise. At first, my motivation was simple: I just want to lose the baby weight. That weight felt like a constant reminder of my loss, and I thought that if I could just shed it, I’d feel more like myself again.

But what I discovered along the way completely shocked me.

I started my health journey to lose weight. But I stayed on it because of what it did for my mental and emotional health.

Suddenly, I had more energy. I was sleeping better. My anxiety lessened. And for the first time in years, I could actually wake up early, feeling rested, and spend time in the Word—something I had desperately wanted but couldn’t seem to do before.

Your body, mind, and spirit are deeply connected. When we nourish our bodies well, we open the door to thriving in every other area of life.

Your Health Is Holy Work

When I started taking care of my physical health, I didn’t expect it to change my entire life. But as I nourished my body, moved it, and honored its needs, something deeper started happening. The fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience—began showing up in my daily life in a way I hadn’t experienced before. I showed up differently for my family. I had more grace, more energy, and more clarity.

And that’s when I realized something powerful: My health was holy work.

God designed my body with purpose. He gave me physical needs—not as a burden but as part of His perfect plan for my well-being. When I ignored those needs, I felt depleted and discouraged. But when I started stewarding my health the way He intended, I saw transformation—not just in my body, but in my motherhood, my faith, and my ability to live fully in His calling.

God never meant for sacrificial love to leave us empty. He designed the family to reflect His heart, and as moms, we have the incredible role of being a tangible example of the Holy Spirit to our children. We nurture, comfort, teach, and create a home that ushers in God’s presence. And let’s be real—when I take care of my health, I am more patient. I am more present. I am a better mom.

When I sleep well, I wake up ready to start my day with Him. When I move my body, I have the energy to pour into my family. What I do physically overflows into my spiritual life in ways I never expected.

Your health isn’t just about feeling better. It’s about stepping fully into who God created you to be.

Created for More: Embracing God’s Design for Thriving Motherhood

As women of God, we need to have these conversations—because if we don’t, we risk missing a key part of how God created us. So often, as moms, we try to push through on sheer willpower alone. We tell ourselves we should be better, do better, and fulfill every expectation placed upon us. But the “shoulds” don’t move us forward.

We have to start somewhere, and sometimes, prioritizing our physical health is the very thing that propels us toward better emotional and spiritual health. Of course, our spirit must lead, but when we nurture our bodies in alignment with God’s design, we step more fully into the person we are called to be. We recognize that the call of God on our lives is too great to ignore the needs He has given us.

Motherhood is not defined by a spotless home, gourmet meals, or perfectly curated moments. Those things have their place, but they are not what we will be rewarded for in heaven. Our true calling is to show up, to love our children as God loves us, and to be a living representation of the Holy Spirit in our homes. And we cannot do that when we are constantly depleted and running on empty.

It’s time to give ourselves permission to care for our bodies—not out of vanity, but out of obedience to the way God designed us. Being depleted in the name of sacrificial love is not a badge of honor; it’s a distortion of what God truly desires for us. He is our Father, and just as we long to meet our children’s needs, He longs to meet ours.

When we honor the natural rhythms God set in place—nourishing our bodies, moving them with purpose, and resting well—we step into greater joy, peace, and strength. We begin to experience motherhood in a new light, walking in the fullness of who God created us to be as mothers, wives, and stewards of our homes.

So be encouraged. Yes, God wants you to pray for peace, energy, and joy. But He has also given you the ability to cultivate them. You are not powerless. You are created for more.

Hope in the Wilderness: God’s Invitation to Renewed Strength for Tired Moms

Before we wrap up, I want to leave you with a powerful verse from Isaiah 43:18-19. I’m reading from The Passion Translation:

“Stop dwelling on the past. Don’t even remember these former things. I am doing something brand new, something unheard of. Even now, it sprouts and grows and matures. Do you see it? I will make a way in the wilderness and open up flowing streams in the desert.”

Another translation says, “I will make waters in the wilderness.”

“I am doing something brand new, something unheard of.” Maybe you’ve never thought of your health as something spiritual. Maybe the idea that your physical health could be a way to step into the fullness of who God created you to be feels unfamiliar. But I’m telling you—get ready for something new.

I wouldn’t be here if God hadn’t put this on my heart—to share with His daughters that He has more for you.

I know motherhood can feel like a barren wasteland. Like you’re wandering through the desert, exhausted and drained on a deep level. I get it, Mama. I’ve been there. And if I’m not careful, I can end up there again.

But now, I know what to do—because God has shown me the way. And I want to show you, too. Because you deserve more. You are called to more.

God is making waters in your wilderness. Where you’ve seen nothing but exhaustion, where hope feels out of reach, where energy feels impossible—He is saying, “I am making a way.”

He is pouring into you. He is working through you. And there is hope for a better journey of motherhood.

Stepping Into God’s Design: A Call to Prioritize Your Health

If you’re here to say:
Yes, I’m ready to lean into my health.
I’m ready to submit to God’s ways—even when that voice inside tells me it’s selfish (telling me I can’t invest the time, the energy, or the resources into caring for myself). I’m going to resist that voice, because I know the Word of God created me this way. My needs didn’t disappear when I became a mom, and God is blessing my journey to steward the very needs He gave me—body, soul, and spirit. I’m committed to walking this out. I’m going to nourish my body with healthy food. I’m going to move it in ways that bring strength and energy. I’m going to submit to His guidance—and in doing so, draw closer to God.

If that sounds like you, if you’re ready to make this shift, then I want you to stick with me. We’re going to have more conversations like this, and in the next episode, I’ll give you simple, actionable steps to start taking care of your health in a way that aligns with who God created you to be. You won’t want to miss it.

But if you’re feeling ready to dive in now, don’t wait. Go grab my freebie: Five Simple Ways to Get Your Energy Back as a Tired Mama. It’s packed with easy, practical tips to get you started today.

Start with one thing—one small change—and watch how it builds. Consistency will lead to more energy, better health, and a renewed sense of strength. You don’t have to do this alone, mama. You’re not just taking care of your body—you’re honoring the gift of life God gave you, and the life He wants you to live fully.

Until next time, remember—you are beautifully designed by God to live with energy, clarity, and joy. You’re not just surviving, Mama—you’re stepping into the vibrant life you were created for. I’m cheering you on!

Blessings & Wellness,

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